What's In You!

I remember almost 10 years ago, all I desired was to finish my education and get a good paying job. Like the majority I thought that’s what people did, work a steady 9-5, take a vacation once a year and look forward to retiring with benefits.

Now, please don’t miss understand me there isn’t anything wrong with working a 9-5 job; if you are using it as a stepping stone to a greater place. I believe we all have the ability to become great at whatever we desire to do. I once heard a man said “greatness is a choice not your destiny”- Les Brown. I totally agree, I was once one of those people who secretly desired greater; but thought greatness wasn’t in my reach. I would oftentimes tell myself that there is more to life then working to fulfill another person dreams. But truth be told, successful people were not in my circle. I didn’t know any successful entrepreneurs, authors, attorney, doctors or world changers. My environment was filled with hard working people that lived from pay check to pay check. Nevertheless, it never occurred to me that maybe one day I could own and operate my own business, write a best seller, empower millions and travel the world as a philanthropist. Now, 10 years later I am glad I never silenced that inner voice that oftentimes reminded me of greater. I recently discovered in the last couple of years that there is more within me than I thought.   

 

A treasure chest full of untapped potential and dreams that I didn’t know existed. Ideas, desires, dreams, and most importantly a vision; waiting for me to discover them. All I had to do was first believe in myself, develop the skills, and the knowledge needed to accommodate my discovery.  Although, it may seem like a three step process it really isn’t. Believing in yourself takes a trunk load of courage and not to mention, developing the skills and knowledge needed for the task. But I can assure you its all  worth it, in the end. Discovering what’s in you will cost you  something. For example, pain produces life. When a woman is with child she is carrying life within her. In order for what’s in her to come out she has to experience discomfort, pain and sometimes embarrassment to give birth to her baby. I believe we all have seeds of greatness within us, waiting to be discovered. Like a pirate seeking buried treasures beneath the ocean. Do I believe searching for hidden treasure takes sacrifice? Absolutely! This journey will take a lot of sacrifice, courage, discomfort and even pain to discover and release what is inside of you. 

But don’t give up or give in, you owe it to yourself in spite of fear, lack of finance, support and etc. To achieve your highest goals and pursue your secret dreams. It's time to discover what's in your treasure chest. The road to greatness is never easy, it is filled with pot holes, muddy waters, detours, road closures, and etc. Nevertheless, make the decision to pursue your heart’s desire. You are one decision away from living your dreams and fulfilling your purpose. What’s in you must come out! The world waited for what was in Steve Jobs, Oprah, Mother Teresa, Sara Blakely and the world is waiting for YOU too. The next time you hear that still voice, believe, pursue, overtake, and dominate.  

Live your passion; while pursuing your purpose 

-Tiffannia

 

Yesterday's Junk

Hey Girlfriends! I know its been awhile since my last post, but life has away of  throwing curve balls when your not looking (lol). Wow! So much has happened since then, but I wanted to bring this important principle to your attention. "You Can't Reach For Anything New If Your Hands Are Still Full Of Yesterday's Junk". Wow! That's a mouth full right? We can all agree that there are things in our life now and in our past that we rather sweep under the rug, lock in the closet or just ignore. Whether its dealing with hurt, disappointment, rejection, unforgiveness or etc.

Truth be told not dealing with these issues often times cost us our time, energy, relationships, emotions, money and etc to fix. Often times, I hear people say "why mess up a good thing, nothing is perfect" or "Take the good with the bad" Well, I beg a differ! Most of us will never take this approach when we are considering purchasing a new outfit, home or a car. We want the best that our money can buy. I have learned that not dealing and comforting issues usually cause more problems.

 If our engine light comes on in our vehicle, we know that sooner or later we have to take the car into the mechanic shop; to see what's causing the problem. If we do not, we know that one problem can lead to another. Matter of fact, the longer we wait its the more damage is being done and more money it will cost. So, why do we ignore and turn a blind eye to warning signs.

Our life is much more valuable then material things, but often time we tend to place our possession over our well being. We can't reach for anything new if our hands are still full of yesterday's junk. Every day brings something fresh and new for us to receive and enjoy. Let's clean out all our closets and get rid of all the junk that's hidden in our lives. And make room for something great!

Live your passion; while pursuing your purpose 

-Tiffannia                     

Balance "What Is That!?"

 Many women feel as if their life is like the wheel on a cycling bike. If you ever took a cycling class with an over energetic instructor, you know just what I mean (lol).  I remember when I took my first and last class; I thought there was no end to this madness. Pedaling at different speeds with little rest in between isn’t for the faint of heart. I do applaud those who are able to pedal their way to a healthier lifestyle, but it wasn’t for me. What is balance, and why do we need it?

Balance is used in different aspects. In design, balance is the placement element on the page; so that the text and graphic are evenly distributed throughout the layout. In finances, it is used to compute the difference between the debits and credits of an account. Just to name a few; however there is another important facet to balance. It is an instrument for weight as a beam that is supported freely in the center and has two pans of equal weight suspended from its end.

This aspect of balance is what we are seeking, having the ability to balance both our emotional and physical well being. For most women this is an area that seems to fall within the cracks of our day. As a woman, we are pulled in many different directions. Every day is filled with something new; even as I write this blog, I have several projects waiting for my attention. And as you read this blog, I am quite certain you also have pending projects screaming for your attention. So, let’s take a quick look at three simply steps you can apply to give you a well rounded balanced life.

1.      Prioritize – make a list of what is important to you. Begin each day spending time with what matters most. (I recommend using this time as ME time) Before work or getting the children ready for school use this time for meditation, exercise or enjoy a cup of hot tea while taking in the morning air. Now, after you have refresh move on to your next priority (ex family, work, etc.).

2.      Organize – create an order system that will enable you to channel your time and energy into what is most important. For example, I have created a number system to organize what is more important to me during the day. Purpose, preparation, and positioning just to name a few is a part of my number system.  I organize my day base on my purpose (vision for my life), then, I prepare (research or studying) and next, I position myself to take action.

3.      Disciple – self disciple, to many is a dirty word, it is equated to weakness or lack of self control; however, for those who decides to build self disciple, it can be a daunting challenge. Pluto the famous philosopher said "The first and best victory is to conquer self." I believe disciple is the glue that holds all three steps together. Matter of fact, I strongly believe it’s what keeps us balance. Just like step #2, I also created a number system of both weak and strong areas that helps me to keep my life balance. I use my strengths to help improve my weakness.

I hope these quick steps help you to live a more balance life. And hopefully the next time someone mentions the word balance; your reply would be “I am working on that!”

-Tiffannia    

Girl! You are an answer, not a problem.

Have you ever heard another woman say "I don't like being around other woman"? Well, I have heard it stated, plenty of times. When I ask the reason why, the responses are always the same. "To Much Drama," "I Can't Deal with The Jealously" and the latest, "Woman Have To Many Insecurities Issues." In back of my mind, the famous quote, "Why can't we all just get along" comes to mind. I believe as woman we have a lot to offer each other. Whether it is parenting, relationships, career, health, beauty tips or advice. I believe our life experiences are wells of untapped resources that can change and help shape lives. Whether you're a mother, daughter, sister or a wife, we all have something to share and give.


Ladies, I am here to proclaim; we are not the problem, we are the answer. We are perfectly designed to solve so many problems. It has been said that man are like waffles, and woman are like spaghetti. "A typical man lives in one box at a time and one box only, when he is at work, he is at work. When he is watching TV, he is simply watching TV. While on the other hand, woman are typically better at multitasking than a man. She can talk on the phone, prepare a meal, make a shopping list, work on the agenda for tomorrow's business meeting, give instructions to her children as they are going outside to play, while closing the door with her right foot without skipping a beat". Ladies, with all that said, don't allow gossip, jealousy, envy and insecurities stop us from building healthy relationships. Let's not fight or slander each other, but rather encourage and build one another. 


Woman, you are specially designed and wonderful weaved together. There is no need for competition or insecurities, because YOU are an original.    


-Tiffannia

The Real Reality Stars

In spite of the recent Reality TV shows, being classy and fabulous it isn't about designer clothes, shoes or handbags. Now, don't get it twisted (Lol), I like fabulous things. However, I don't allow those things to define what kind of woman I am. If you don't mind I would like to share a few things I have learned about being classy and fabulous. Reality TV show casts are considered to be reality stars; however, I would like to suggest that a classy and fabulous woman are the true reality stars. A pattern star has about five to six, pointed edges and about 12 sides depending on the star. I would like to draw your attention to the six-pointed edges on the star. A classy & fabulous woman in my opinion has multiple qualities that make her classy.  However, for this discussion I will only focus on six of those qualities. 


With that being said, here are my 6 qualities of a classy & fabulous woman.
1. Self confidence - A confident woman can walk into a room and people take notice of her. They are intrigued, not necessarily because of her physical appearance, but instead by her self-assurance. She releases a fragrance that states, "I am not cocky, I am just confident." There are a few traits of a confident women that I adore: she knows her strengths and uses them, she is not jealous, because she understands that she is an original, and she isn't afraid to affirm and celebrate another woman.


2. Authenticity - More and more woman today are having identity problems. Be true to your personality and character. Oscar Wilde famous quote "Be yourself, everyone else is taken." Authenticity is placing value on yourself and telling the world "I am an original, and not a carbon copy." 


3. Respectable - Sometimes I love to watch those old English movies, were the woman showed elegance, modesty and respect. They knew how to act like a lady and displayed  grace and sophistication. If a woman has a nice figure, people will notice without her exposing to much of herself. A respectable woman is manner-able and carries a positive attitude. 


4. Lovely -  A lovely woman is more than her physical appearance. She is the fresh fragrance after the rain. She has the ability to give love even when her heart is broken. Her love grows from each fiber of her being. Her love and kindness is an under estimated power that can influence nations.


5. Industrious -  Working towards a goal or fulfilling a dream isn't the easiest thing to accomplish, when you're a woman. But an industrious woman prepares, plans and work hard to fulfill and pursue her passion. On this mission failure is not an option. She understands that  discipline and sacrifices is the fringe benefits of obtaining her goals. She is financial savvy and knows how to spend her buck.


6. Service - Giving, is one of those mysterious vein or artery that connects a woman's heart to her brain. Most woman give so much and gain so little. But a woman who truly understands, enjoy serving her family and community. She knows that her service isn't the true gift, but what she receives is priceless.   


*Ladies, I believe that  these are a few qualities we should all possess. Remember being classy & fabulous  comes with responsibilities. I challenge you to be a true Reality Star of your own show.


-Tiffannia

24 hours

What would your life be like, if you followed your dreams and live your passion— not your mother's dreams for you, not what your friends think your good at, and especially not what feels comfortable or convenient; but what you desired to do? Too many women seem to be living for everyone but themselves, or they are too afraid to make a decision that will stir up good trouble. I began asking women, "What is your passion?", and many of them didn't have an answer. Or if they did, they weren't putting any effort to make their dream a reality. How many of you when asked that same question, would have answered "one day". Unfortunately, for some people that one day will never come because of death, sickness, and fear. I once heard, If you only have 24 hours in a day, your success is depend upon "how you use your 24hrs." Every human, whether you are Oprah, Bill Gates, President Obama or the janitor at the local high school; are all given the same amount of hours in a day. The differences is how you use your time. Stop waiting for that "one day" opportunity and create your opportunity today. 

-Live your passion; while pursuing your purpose.

Tiffannia

Hey girlfriend

Welcome to the girlfriends blog, a place where you and I can really chat and get to know each other. If you don't mind, I would like to share a little about myself. I am a daughter, sister and a mother. I have a passion to help women re-discover their passions and live their dreams. As a woman we play many different roles. On average we wear about five different hats daily, fulfilling everyone's needs accept our own. For example, we often times are the nurturer, lover, helper, housekeeper, advisor, supporter and the list goes on and on. And at the end of the day many of us are left in need. Well, my desire is to inspire you to maximize your potential and awaken those life long dreams that you abandoned years ago. And, hopefully alone the way we can share our life experiences as friends. So let's begin this journey together.






-Live your passion; while pursuing your purpose.


Tiffannia